I’ve started writing a guest blog on istaggered.com – a site to do with mens’ wedding issues (stag parties, best man speeches etc…). I’m challenging the readers to follow my blog for a year and am ‘guaranteeing’ that by the end of it they won’t be single anymore.

I thought I’d repost the first article for your interest and amusement

Enjoy!

Keychain

LINK: http://www.iamstaggered.com/featured/the-stop-being-single-challenge-part-one

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Dear Reader,

Welcome to the Batchelor-Buster blog! Over the next weeks and months I’ll be presenting short, informative articles designed to radically change the way you conduct your dating life.

Contrary to the usual wishy-washy dating advice out there, I won’t bore you with vague exhortations to “just be yourself”, “be confident” and “be funny”. I’ll give you specific, tried and true techniques that will, if followed, turn your dating life around.

Whether you’re single and looking for that special someone or just want to increase your options with women, I’ll teach you how to take charge of your dating life and become the selector.

Sounds pretty enticing right?

But there’s a catch…

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. – Rita Mae Brown

Mark, a good friend of mine, is chronically single. He’s unsatisfied with the type of women he meets and always seems to fall into relationships of convenience with women that don’t really inspire him. Mark dates women from two main sources, his workplace and social circle. In fact, this is where most of us assume we’ll find our partners.

The problem is that Mark’s choices are very limited. His dating life is out of his control; with such a passive approach to dating he is forced to rely on Fate, Cupid or blind luck to send an attractive, single woman across his path. It’s much like a caveman hunting deer by standing still in a forest and hoping some poor creature will run onto his spear by sheer chance!

What if Mark had the skill and confidence to strike up a conversation with any woman, in any situation? What if he could approach the cute brunette in the queue at the coffee shop, or the arty redhead on the tube? What if he could actually meet, have an interesting conversation and set up a date with the kinds of attractive women he sees around him every day? His options would be limitless!

Well, that’s what I propose to discuss in this blog: the skills, habits and mindsets required to actually take charge of your dating life and create some choice for yourself.

Earlier, I mentioned a catch and here it is: change. If you want to change the results of your dating life, you’ll need to change what you put into it. I’ll be suggesting specific changes that may challenge you. Most of us tend towards homeostasis and resist change but I encourage you to consider that if what you’re doing right now isn’t working, what have you got to lose by trying something different?

First Things First

Let’s finish with a quick exercise to work out the kind of woman you want. Now, at times (such as at 2am in a Friday night bar after a stiff drink or six), I might feel like just about any pretty girl with a pulse and a cute smile could be a candidate for my time and affection, but in my higher moments I have been known to hold to some form of standards!

These flashes of refinement and discernment, however rare, are actually a necessity to being successful in dating. On a more serious note, as you follow this blog and start changing the way you conduct your love life, your options will increase so much that you’ll need standards to choose which women to get to know better.

I’m not going to ask you to list the physical attributes that you find sexy in a woman. For most guys this is a no-brainer, our bodies tell us right away if we’re physically attracted to a woman or not. Physical attractiveness is very important and is the entry requirement for a woman to qualify for a date with you. But there are throngs of gorgeous women out there who measure up on a purely physical level – many more than you could possible date in a lifetime. We’ll need to deepen our search if we want to sort through this bounty of beauties to find the right match.

Let’s list eight non-physical qualities that you look for in a woman. Whether you want someone who is enthusiastic about travel, sexually confident and open-minded or a great cook, write them down. A man who clearly knows what he wants tends to get what he wants.

Save this list, you’ll need it for later blog installments.

Next time we’ll discuss easy and effective ways to start a conversation with any woman in any situation. We’ll look at some great opening lines and reveal the oh-so-common mistakes that cause most men to send women running!

Until then,

Steve Jones, aka Keychain

www.lovesystems.com

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A team from Channel 5 News spent some time with us at our recent London Bootcamp to film a Valentine’s Day Special. They attended the seminar and shadowed five students and me as we hit the town. A panel of presenters discuss the segments at the end of the video (so skip forward if you want to hear what they say about us!).

I’ve uploaded the video to youtube for you and embedded it below. Your thoughts and comments are most welcome!

Enjoy!

Keys

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I’m excited, Mr.M just forwarded me an insiders’ copy of the finished phone and text game ebook and it’s insane!

First of all, it’s absolutely huge. This isn’t some shoddy collection of articles that barely touches twenty pages…nope, this behemoth is one-hundred and seventy five pages long!

I get so many emails from guys who have taken our bootcamps and maybe a 1-1 or two – they’re able to get numbers by the dozen but still mess up on the follow-up. Guys, without decent phone and text game you’re not gonna get many dates.

There are full-length transcripts of phone conversations and text-banter that show the whole progression of turning a cold number into a hot date. You can be sure I’ll be analysing these closely to steal all the good stuff

I heartily recommend you get this new book and turn those tough numbers into solid dates! Check it out here: http://www.lovesystems.com/pages/affiliate_link.php?f=/books/phone-text-game&kbid=85116&m=230

All the best,

Keychain

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That’s right!! I’ve finally tracked him down and exposed him for the evil scoundrel that he is!! Hahaha, at last the truth is out!!

Just kidding.

What I actually have today is way cooler than that. You probably caught my recent post announcing Big Business’ upcoming Humour and Improv Seminar. You can read it here: CLICK.

Well, I managed to get the man himself on a phone call from New York. I grilled him on his credentials, his experiences in comedy and game, and on some of his best information. I’m going to release it for you guys on this blog, one episode every 3 days. (Mark it in your schedule).

Looking forward to reading your thoughts/reactions/request in the comment section below!

Without further ado, here’s part 1:

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Today, Thundercat posted his famous Top Ten List of Pick-Up Artists of 2009 and…I’m on there!!! That’s right, my intern called me this morning to inform me that I’ve been ranked #8 in the world!!!

I’m really excited! To be on the same list as so many of my heroes is an honour. This wouldn’t have been possible without the support and encouragement of my colleagues, clients and teachers. Thank you.

Big congratulations to Cajun who also featured on the list at #4!

You can read all about it, and discover Thundercat’s rather unflattering description of my physical attributes(!), on his site. Just CLICK HERE.

I have a lot of projects in the works right now, including a ton of free content for you to enjoy. I have high hopes for this coming year – keep an eye on this blog for the latest updates as they come out.

What a way to start 2010!

Keychain

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Whether it was his humour, intelligence, understanding of women or his life success, Allen certainly had ‘something’. In this article we’ll analyse interview footage of the man and extract key lessons from his communication style and humour.

Allen’s humour has a very distinct style and is not for everyone. I, for one, love it and enjoy using elements of it in my interactions with women.

Clip 1

Allen’s humour in this clip is very interesting. Note a couple of key points:

- Allen gives off a faux sincerity, appearing to answer seriously and honestly to draw in the listener. He goes with the listener’s expectations and then, at the last, defies them and delivers his punchline. See 00:25 for the first example of this – he goes on to amplify the joke at 00:57.

-He constantly skirts the line between humorous and serious. At 02:25 he discusses his thoughts on women psychoanalysts and MD’s, giving a serious answer capped with a silly punchline. When teasing a woman, this is an interesting ‘mode’ of humour to experiment with – it’s interesting and intriguing for a woman to be with a man who skirts this line with skill.

Clip 2

This whole clip has some classic examples of ‘heightening’. This is when you take a concept, joke or discussion topic and raise the humour to new levels…and then some more…and then some more. Specific examples include 2:38 and 5:40. For a full explanation of heightening, click here to read Big Business’ article on humour.

Clip 3

The first 5 minutes of this clip see Allen discussing women, marriage and his ideal girl. This is an excellent example of his humour and the kind of material, with perhaps a more sexual edge, that works well in stage 1 of Da Hunter’s ideas on sexual hoops.
Clip 4
Like any mode of communication or social technique, to be constantly humorous in this manner would eventually lose its effectiveness. In the following clip Allen intelligently discusses his passions, creative pursuits and film as art. Having such things in his life, and being willing and able to discuss them in an interesting way, is an important counter-balance to his comedic leanings. Love Systems instructor Future is especially good at this.

General Thoughts
Allen is not the constant clown and resists the temptation to bite at every piece of comedy bait. From time to time he will either respond seriously or simply ignore Dick’s set-up and instead instigates his own thread. A willingness to occasionally cut and ignore threads, as well as a steadfastness in imposing one’s own, is a recurring theme in successful social communication.

It might be a little challenging to see how some of Allen’s communication skills might be used in set. Let me give you an example of an Allen-style humour theme that I regularly use in set. I first heard the basis of this humour theme from Calabrese in Vegas, although I’ve subsequently heard that it’s Braddock’s invention. However, knowing the viewing habits of our LS instructor tea (me included) it’s probably a ripoff of Family Guy!

Note, this material can be delivered as one routine or sprinkled throughout an interaction as callback humour.

• I’m actually here tonight for two reasons: to lose my virginity and get married. I’m not sure which I should do first, what do you think?
  
• Yeh, my mum said ‘Keychain, it’s time to get out of the basement, stop playing World of Warcraft and start meeting some girls.’So she bought my shirt/ticket/hotel room and told me come talk to people.
  
• Actually, it’s a good thing we met – are you married? Oh cool, because I’m actually recruiting a wives…but all my wives need to have a special skill, what’s your special skill?

I hope you’ve enjoyed this look at. If comedy, humour and wit is your thing, you’ve got to check out the new seminar that we’re launching. Big Business is hilarious and, even better, he knows how to teach it – he’s been teaching improv in New York for years. Click here to find out more about Big Business’ new Humour and Improv seminar!

Enjoy!

Keychain

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